Being social or being narcissist?

It is said that “Sharing is caring”. But, then, it is not applicable to anything and everything. Of course, “sharing is caring”, but the very sense is more applicable to things which have got positive impact on people other than you and not just you. This implies to the fact that when you share something from which somebody is going to get some benefit or have some positive impact in their life, it is good or else it is good for nothing. And, social networking is one such platform where it is being believed that often sharing things have got negative on somebody’s else life.

Since the advent of social networking sites, most of us have been addicted to sharing things (relevant or irrelevant to others in Facebook, Twitter, MySpace and so on), in text form. Even for me, I got my first “Hi5” account in 2004 and it got all messed up because of security breach and I was not the only victim, but most of our friends were victimized. Finally, I decided to completely sign off from “hi5” and decided to create another one in one of the then emerging most auspicious social networking sites – “Facebook.

When I created that account, I was not sure why I was creating it, and then what was I going to do with it. I was, basically, addicted to internet, webpages and things connected to it. But, then, slowly after using it, I started realizing  that this is something which is surely going to change the world in the communication field. Since the advent of the social networking sites, people were less confined to using emails and emails seemed starting fading with time and it slowly started becoming quite apparent that it is only useful for sending and sharing documents more than communicating and messaging.

With more emerging cool features, people started getting used to Facebook and Twitter comparatively more than any other communicating medium. Texting were supposed to be more convenient and more preferred method of communication than email and phone calls. Now, it’s the time when Facebook has completely took to the stage and has grabbed most part of this communication world after it has launched its document sharing platform in its personal messaging feature.

But, then, there was a problem. More and more studies and researches started showing that people started becoming more narcissist and more egocentric based on what people share on their profile. Studies started showing that we are losing our real social life while we are more indulged in the virtual social life. It has completely engrossed our life as a whole and we are distancing ourself from our family and those we use to care once. The world seemed moving away from its normal course of life. 

It might be true to some point that we are becoming more egocentric and more narcissist as we are being driven away from the normal social life. But, what I feel is that it might just be a part of the whole story. If we think of sharing things on social networking sites in a positive manner, we will find that we have become more and more social and we have started even caring more about our near and dear ones than previously thought otherwise. We share our moments, our state of mind, local news and weather report in real-time. We are more connected now than we use to be.

I met my school friends on Facebook after years of gap – those who were completely out of touch. These social networking sites have made it possible I make time to meet them which otherwise would not have been possible. It has helped me to get more organized and now I can manage time to meet them all in person just because of these social networking sites. If we think about communication in a positive manner, I would say that it is easier to initiate conversation with people you don’t know on social networking sites and through internet rather than talking in person for the first time (which is often less comfortable). Talking on internet, gives us less chance to be judgmental about somebody we are completely unfamiliar with because of their body language. Now, don’t tell me that you don’t do because that will again impart tint of narcissism – we all do at some point of time – this is a human nature, and I guess there is nothing wrong about it!

I would say that internet, social networking sites are giving us a platform to open up ourself though various ways – either through sharing your thoughts, about things happening your life or else through the various kinds of news. Now, it’s only to those who take it either positive or negative. Everything we say, it always has both positive as well as negative connotation on it. Now, its all up to us how we take it. People those who share good news about their life (for example, if s/he gets scholarship, or got graduated, got fellowship, got into a beautiful relationship, got married, won a lottery) might not be thinking of making somebody else jealous of their life. Because, it is a common sense that whatever you do with your life and however is your life, sooner or later it is going to come out with its real face and there is nothing to boast about. Even if you follow the rules of “dos and don’ts” of social networking sites, it doesn’t necessarily mean that you will end up a very magnificent portfolio in social networking site.

The the only tangible thing to think about is that, “People these days are not sad  as much as of their own downturn or sadness as they are of because of somebody’s else happiness”.  Therefore, it doesn’t matter what you share on the social networking site. It’s up to those who take it either positive or negative. I believe, therefore, that internet has always good impact rather than negative impact on personal behavior. It is all up to us to how we take it – either, we let ourself being taken over by it and get molded by it or else we take on it. 

Happy browsing! Long Live The Internet!

The Stifled Progress

I am not sure about the exact date and time, but it has certainly been more than 15-years and counting since we lost our old nice peace loving country and entered into a debacle of history of Nepal that we had never seen before. And, what was that for? For rebuilding Nepal, that was for making Nepal for everyone –- a dream country – or so called a “Kingdom of Heaven” – with a vision that we all will be treated equally, there would not be any kind of suppression and oppression against any minority group and community – in fact, to meet all the demands of the poor people of Nepal – a kind of ideal life with dignity.

More than 15-years have been passed and what we have got in return is: more suppression and oppression, more maim, more violence, more loss of life in the name of finding rights. The question is, “Is this what we had ever longed for?, Is this what we really deserve for being honest, humble and gracious, kind and peace loving?, Is this what we had ever dreamt of?”. The fact is we have lost of honesty, our composure, our humanity – whatever we ever had which we use to boast with – “The nation of peace – Nepal – has marred into a havoc where no one has control over what is going on. The only option left is to protect your life, your family’s life and your property you have.

Over 15000 people have lots their life, thousands got internally-displaced, and there is still no record of hundreds of those who are missing. Who is going to find those answers for our history? Really hard to believe that out of millions of son’s of Nepal, no one seems responsible to give it a final conclusion, no one is ready to stand for her and give it a pleasant ending. All those brave sons of Nepal which is known to be a honest sons of Nepal and is still being praised for being honest and unequivocal mettle (Gorkhali soldiers) are good for nothing, finally. What is the use of pontificating that we are the sons of great-gorkhas when we can’t even protect our own motherland?

The rising incidence of murder, extortion, kidnapping, rape doesn’t shows any sign of abating. No one seems responsible for what is going on. There is virtually no control over the system, the rules governing the system. We have been saying that, “We should not forget that we are all law-abiding-citizen”. Absolutely! But, what matters here and now is that it has just been confined to the papers and have ended up in some corner of the administrative office and control division that no body cares of even know that it still even exist.

More than 600 goons are sitting in our parliament and languishing in their cozy individual cubicles. That’s what they fought for! They showed us the dream of a heavenly state which turned out to be a hinterland. All those rebel forces of Maoists have same  rue to vent – “We trusted them (the Maoists political leaders) with our life, but we have been bilked – we never realized that the process of evolution takes time, nothing is going to change overnight, but we were so inane to even think about it.” Finally, what we got is this (Rs.200, 0000)!! All those PLA-fighters have the same question to ask, “Is this (Rs.200,000) is what we deserve from all this 15-years of insurgency? But, nobody seems to pay their heed to their plea.

The chances of recovery is very slim in case of Nepal as it has been infected with a deadly virus of ethnicity. Unfortunately, however we try to parry the inevitability and to get away from the reality, the truth is that we are going down under this quagmire of ethnicity. It has so deeply rooted itself within this one decade of time that it hardly seems to getting back to normalcy.  And, sadly enough, everyone of us seems stoic and stolid to this situation – with few exceptions that we have been continually been updating our Facebook and Twitter status showing how saddened we are and how desperately we need our normal life back in our home (Nepal) – which is insignificant and untouchable in any manner.

God bless Nepal and we Nepalese!

Perception of Social Media

Social medias have taken a huge swing in recent times. Everybody is talking about the social media – some are wise-geeks, while some are buffoons, but whoever they are, the most surprising thing is that everybody has got more or less knowledge about the social media.

Today’s generation is so frantic about the social media that they keep on hanging 24/7, specially the people in the developed countries and the countries which are on the final stage of getting into the list of developed countries – thanks to the uninterrupted power supply and the cheaper gadgets in the time of competition which is pushing the trend to make it happen and give it a successful tag. The number of people using social media to get connected is not as surprising as the way it has taken the toll of our generation.

Within these last couple of years it has risen so unprecedentedly that it has become quite hard for the older generation to catch up with it. They feel like its something out-of-the-world for most of them and they are struggling to match their steps of the current generation’s pace of development.

It is quite incomprehensible to know why it has gain so much name and fame in such a small period of time. One possible reason can be that, it has got something stored in for almost all generation, though it is difficult for the peoples from different generation to comprehend it at the pace it is developing or changing. It means, people from different walks of life have different tastes – some are technology freaks who are always in search for something new, something different, while others are like, they just need something that will suffice their work load for a period of time after which they will never care to look back and see what it really was when they need it. In straight forward tone  — they never had that kind of taste a person usually have that have made this social networking rise with leaps and bounds.

There has always been some kind of perception for things to be comprehended by the people which varies within a population and in between the people of same generation also. But, we can’ t blame a person for having a sense and a taste different than somebody else, because its just a human nature and we have been made so to maintain the balance of earthly nature.

Some people take social networking as something to kill time, to pass time, some take it as enjoyment, some as a hub for the intellect where all their friends are intellect and often have real-time discussion on things that is relevant for their work or something. Some take it as a platform for the educational purpose where they can share what they feel about and then get feedback from their friends, colleagues, and their peers.

Whatever it is we have been blessed to enjoy all these new technologies first hand. Thanks to all engineers who are working hard day and night for making this happen to give us their best. 

Thank you so much for stopping by and reading.